betrayal of trust

" there is nothing in the world like the devotion of a married woman - it is a thing no married man knows anything about " - Oscar Wilde

hmm...

know what makes infidelity in marriage seems so unforgivable..? Because it is covered with thick layers of lies. That u just can't bring urself to believe a single word tht comes out from ur cheating spouse's mouth ever again.

I know..saying is alwys easier. " I forgive u, let's just forget the whole thing and rebuild our life". But the truth is, it's never gonna be the same . The picture of ur beloved life partner sprawled naked next to another woman..will never be erased from ur mind, no matter how u try to. And the thought that this person whom u love and trust with all ur heart has betrayed you,..u can never look at him with the same eyes again.

Trust is a very precious thing. We dont just trust everyone, and to gain someone's trust is not something tht u could attain in a day or two, might even take years. And once that trust is betrayed, destroyed by one act of stupidity, to regain the same level of trust and create the familiar ambience of love and affection that was once flourishing happily in ur marriage life..well, let just say it's not going to be an easy work. If it ever succeed.

I've just watched 'Gubra'. Found myself thinking about the story, the part where Arif who appears to be a loving husband and good son-in-law..yet at the same time philandering behind his wife's back. I tried putting myself in the 'lonely husband's' shoes, using reason like " i was lonely, u were away all the time " to validate the action of sleeping with another person, but i can't even imagine it. I can't comprehend how anyone with a sane mind and good conscience could lie so discreetly to someone u vowed u love. How can u look into ur wife's eyes and say all those sweet words of love knowing the fact that u're guilty like sin behind her back. How can u make love to ur wife when at the same time u know ( and u very well know..! ) that the thing of urs was inside someone else's just two nights ago..i just can't understand it!..( sorry for the harsh words used, i can get very emotional talking about this..).

Value the trust given to us. Remember that not everything can be corrected by just saying " im sorry ". Time will definitely heal the wound, but the scar will remains, as remnants of yesterday's hurt and betrayal.

Dont be defeated by the brief passing of lust and temptation.
It's just not worth it.